Certain Western behaviors trigger certain Eastern thoughts. Throw on a bikini and tell him you want to spend the day at the beach. Yeah, he’s still protective but he’s also truly dedicated and loyal.
Yeah, he may have thrown those dishdashas in the closet and traded them in for a pair of jeans, but in no way has his mind changed. Arab engagements differ from country to country so I won’t go into great detail about the exact procedures. The things above may make the Arab male seem unreasonable and make some wonder why a woman would even consider marrying one. On a positive note, when an Arab man does get married it’s almost as if he matures overnight.
This post is my little attempt at clearing up some of the misconceptions regarding the Arab/American marriages.
Perhaps I should clarify a bit; my husband is not only an Arab, but he’s a bedoin (desert) Arab.
If he knew something bothered me or caused me pain, he wouldn’t do it, that simple.
In the bedoin culture men are often viewed as superior to women (by outsiders), but it’s not that way.
This behavior is what keeps most of us wives from asking for very much. And knowing a person will do pretty much anything in the world to make you happy prevents us from wanting to bother them with silly things.
And if they’re not followed then in HIS mind he’s not engaged. Of course the bullet points above are from either personal experience or simply witnessing those around me for many years.
My husband has never asked me to cover my head, my face, hands, or feet.
He’s never treated me as anything less than his equal other than when it involves finances.
Many people have asked me what it’s like being an American woman married to an Arab man.
Some even ‘warned’ me before making the decision to get married.